WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO WITH THIS GIFT?

Posted by on Jun 3, 2016 in This was on my mind | No Comments

Today is a singularity. There will be other days. For most, but not all of us, there will be a tomorrow. But Today, this particular twenty-four hours is a one-time thing. Once it’s gone you cannot get it back. Of course, this idea is neither novel nor hard to grasp. Today and its singular nature […]

10 THINGS I LEARNED IN 27 YEARS OF MARRIAGE

Posted by on May 29, 2016 in This was on my mind | No Comments

Ten Things I Learned in 27 Years of Marriage Number 1: I had more June Cleaver, Claire Huxtable genes than I thought. Nothing like love to make you feel oddly domestic in ways you swore you’d never do. Number 2: I don’t know where they got this from but I did not find that 2 […]

THE DISPOSABLE MAN THEORY

Posted by on May 29, 2016 in This was on my mind | No Comments

The Disposable Man Theory When I was 16, I thought men were disposable. . If one did anything I didn’t like, he was out. I disposed of them, regularly. By 26, I thought men were indispensible. Wanted marriage and a baby. Not having one made me feel like a failure, fleetingly. At 36 I had […]

BETTER THAN YESTERDAY

Posted by on May 29, 2016 in This was on my mind | No Comments

Better Than Yesterday “She Doesn’t Live Here Anymore” Shanika asked for my thoughts on self-improvement. When anyone asks me that I invariably start with this. All improvement requires you to embrace what’s wrong with you. Owning your weaknesses is not always an easy sell. It’s no fun to stare at the least of yourself but […]

IT IS ON US

Posted by on May 29, 2016 in This was on my mind | No Comments

It IS on us, just like Joe Biden said. ItIsOnUs.org. It is on us to step up and step in when we see the potential for abuse. I’d like to take it one step further though. I think it is on us to step in sooner. Changing the culture requires a comprehensive approach with an […]