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So Far So Good

Good Morning and I do mean Good Morning! We received our overnight numbers on Wedlock or Deadlock and we did well! I am so excited. Still looking to build on those numbers so keep the word going.

Going to LA and going to rock Divorce Court. Can’t forget my home base.

Again I want to thank my Crew for so much support. I am going to ask about posting something on the net for those of you who didn’t get to see Wedlock.

And by the way I want everyone to say hi to Ravis. She’s new to the posting crew but has been a huge fan a supporter for years. Welcome to The Crew.

Thanks for the jokes and brain teasers. Was Coffin right? That was a good one. Too much going on today to say anything meaningful today. Maybe if I get some time later I’ll holler back.

Keep it real!!!

Good Morning

Gotta go to tape tomorrow. Already sweating the aluminum tube. It’s been a bad aviation year. 17 is coming with me though. He olds my hand on takeoff.

Thanks for asking about my tennis game 09. Played this morning but it was a huge class so mostly I just stood in line in the sun. Whacked at a few balls but not enough to get a sense of anything. Threw in a couple of good shots though. Private lesson tomorrow though before I leave. Lovin’ that! Can’t wait.

So I know you know it’s Wedlock or Deadlock premiere today. That’s working my nerves a bit as well.

But your girl is cool. I’ve got all of the scary stuff in my sights. Not going to let it run my day.

Hollering out to my crew! Your consistency and support means a lot.

I’m hungry. Guess where I’m headed? If I can clear my head I’ll holler later.

Take care.

Six AM

This is my favorite time of the day. If I get up at 6 it says I haven’t been worrying too much (because if I had been I would have gotten up at 4). It also means that I am awake and alone with a fresh brain.

The furniture for The Room is arriving today. All I need is one more hour or two of clean up before I’m ready for that. So all is well.

I would like to thank My Crew for the kudos on the tape (as well as the ones giving props for the ability to post it!!) As you can see I typically see only those things I’ve done wrong not what went well. Useful habit when trying to improve. Pain in the ass when making an effort to be content.

And that I suppose is my subject for today. I have realized, of late, that contentment is not something that just occurs. You know what I mean. We all say as soon as I. . . then you name it – get that promotion – lose weight – find a mate – etc. I’ll be content. But you know what happens while you’re waiting for that to get right something else goes wrong. Rarely, if ever, do all your ducks get in a row.

I realized some time ago, though I forget it on a regular basis: Happy ain’t looking for me – I need to look for it.

So today I WILL find contentment in whatever ordinary difficulties of the day that may occur. (I say ordinary because if you have something really bad happen like wrap your car around a poll or get shot – contentment is pretty much off the table at least for a day or two ; ). But I mean the dumb stuff. Waiting in lines – minor annoyances- teenagy children. I am going to find my center today and stay there.

Contentment is something you strive for: it’s an acceptance of what is, it requires you to focus on all that is right. If you’ve read my book you will know that it will help to Globalize You Pain Quotient. And when your mood drifts back towards irritation make a decision to pull it back to where it will do you some good.

My husband said something to me the other day that I found quite helpful. I received a phone call from someone with respect to something important and they left a message saying give me a call or something like that but didn’t say really what it was about.

So what did I do? I started wondering what’s wrong. Asked Big E do you think. . . then I went through every negative scenario you could think of. He let me finish. Did not get mad (which he used to do – improvement, another thing to be happy about) and then said: “don’t waste your time worrying about a problem until you know you have one.”

That was a light bulb and sparkler moment for me. Sometimes worry is helpful. If you have a problem and you are concerned about it you go through all of the possible scenarios and reactions. That way you might come upon a solution or be more prepared. That’s the part that throws me. I do that kind of worrying and often find creative solutions to difficulties that way. So I find it beneficial.

But like anything else too much of it or applied inappropriately it’s nothing but trouble. The hard part for me was deciding when worry was helpful and when I have gone “off the road “. Now I have at least one bright line rule I can follow. Doesn’t solve it all but it should help me eliminate a whole section of inappropriate concern.

This picture is me all happy. (from my trip to Sedona months back but my facial expression is apt.) Also I am all into my new computer skills and I want to share.

Peace people.

Sedona

Going For Broke

I am a woman prone to extremes. Now that I have my picture up I’m going to take it all the way. Here’s a video of me on the morning news in Phoenix yesterday. You have to check this out though. Four years on TV and I still don’t know what camera to look at AND I did my own hair. Any of you remember Alfalfa? How sad.

Experience

You can learn from just about anyone or anything. Experience, though an outstanding teacher, can also be an expensive one. If you have to learn all of your mistakes through trial and error it could get pricey.

But if you can eavesdrop on the lessons experience is teaching others, you get it’s wisdom without the cost of tuition which is often times quite high.

When we talk of celebrity tragedy we see the great loss and mourn that. People who have added to history and culture and have high profiles are most certainly missed when they pass. But the thing that we need to remember is that The Rule of Inclusion never gets repealed.

The Rule of Inclusion is this. Though we may treat the famous as special the laws of physics medicine and nature do not. But sometimes it feels that way especially to those who have a life in which everyone around them says “Yes”

I heard Deepok Chopra the other night on TV talking about Michael Jackson’s alleged dependence on drugs. He said when he would press him on the issue MJ would stop returning calls.

When Princess Diana died amidst all the conspiracy theories I heard only twice that the one person with his seat belt on in the car made it. I don’t know what happened as far as conspiracies. I do know that there was booze and speed and no seat belts. I am not blaming at all. Her death was a tremendous loss. But I tell you what, what I did tell one young lady I was mentoring at the time was. ‘Nobody is immune to the basic rules of life. Obey them even when the world says you’re special.’

Back to MJ. Though the rest of us don’t have an entourage or staff and the money to seclude ourselves and hire a full time personal doctor, we all have the ability to turn a deaf ear to those who tell us things we do not want to hear. It never hurts to listen and to do so with an open mind. Of course, you can’t take everything to heart. You have to understand that person’s perspective. Some people tell you stuff just to hurt you. But I see all commentary – no matter the source or the intent – as instructional even from people who don’t like me.

My mother taught me this one. Look for the small grain of truth that may lie in any insult. If it’s there be aware of and, if possible, conquer it. That way people who sought to hurt you end up helping you.

Here’s an example. I was riding down a residential street once when I was young and some guy beeped and yelled at me because he felt I was driving to fast. I called him a name – not to him but to mom – “who does that a**hole thinks he is,” I said, “the police?”

Mom said. “You need to turn around and thank that man. He just did you a favor. You were driving to fast.”

Silly story but good point. I was just thinking about it so I thought I would say it.

All is well at Casa Toler. The Room is about to go down for the count. I am a tough customer once angered.

Check out my blog on judgelynn.com Sooner or later I am going to figure out the picture thing and once I do you’ll get the story and a visual.

Okay people, I am going to try this thing again. At one of my many trips to the airport I meant some one interesting.

Apparently it was. I posted it and all I got was gibberish.

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So Far So Good

Posted by on Jul 21, 2009 in Uncategorized | No Comments

Good Morning and I do mean Good Morning! We received our overnight numbers on Wedlock or Deadlock and we did well! I am so excited. Still looking to build on those numbers so keep the word going. Going to LA and going to rock Divorce Court. Can’t forget my home base. Again I want to […]

Good Morning

Posted by on Jul 20, 2009 in Uncategorized | No Comments

Gotta go to tape tomorrow. Already sweating the aluminum tube. It’s been a bad aviation year. 17 is coming with me though. He olds my hand on takeoff. Thanks for asking about my tennis game 09. Played this morning but it was a huge class so mostly I just stood in line in the sun. […]

Six AM

Posted by on Jul 18, 2009 in Uncategorized | No Comments

This is my favorite time of the day. If I get up at 6 it says I haven’t been worrying too much (because if I had been I would have gotten up at 4). It also means that I am awake and alone with a fresh brain. The furniture for The Room is arriving today. […]

Going For Broke

Posted by on Jul 17, 2009 in Uncategorized | No Comments

I am a woman prone to extremes. Now that I have my picture up I’m going to take it all the way. Here’s a video of me on the morning news in Phoenix yesterday. You have to check this out though. Four years on TV and I still don’t know what camera to look at […]

Experience

Posted by on Jul 17, 2009 in Uncategorized | No Comments

You can learn from just about anyone or anything. Experience, though an outstanding teacher, can also be an expensive one. If you have to learn all of your mistakes through trial and error it could get pricey. But if you can eavesdrop on the lessons experience is teaching others, you get it’s wisdom without the […]