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Ten Things I Learned in 26 Years of Marriage

Number 1:

I had more June Cleaver, Claire Huxtable genes than I thought.

Nothing like love to make you feel oddly domestic in ways you swore you’d never do.

Number 2:

I don’t know where they got this from

but I did not find that 2 can live a cheaply as one.

Number 3:

People have financial personalities.

Savers gotta save. Spenders … have to get with the program.

Number 4:

A marriage will glide … for a while but sooner rather

than later you have to put your thrusters

back on before you lose too much altitude.

Number 5:

A sense of humor is invaluable.

Number 6:

You never get to stop talking about it. Ever.

Number 7:

Marriage counselors should be a go-to-whenever event

not a near-the-end-of–the-marriage event.

Number 8:

At some point you and your partner will find yourselves

hanging on for dear life trying to survive the kids.

Number 9:

Number 8 can last a long time … just sayin’.

Number 10:

You know you’ve got the right guy when the both

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Moving …

Hello everyone,

I am in the process of trying to make my e-life more manageable … I have about 150 unanswered questions here and have no way to weed through them in a timely manner.

So this is the new plan….

I am going to answer questions from my Facebook Page: My Mother’s Rules:

My Mother’s Rules

I have turned on the messages feature there and I have someone helping me to get things organized, so I can respond to more and do general replies to often asked questions.

LOL! Keep your fingers crossed as I continue my on-line e-struggles

JLT

 

 

 

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Hello everyone,

I’ve gotten a couple of questions from some of you about me that I’d thought I’d answer en masse.

1. Someone asked me to take an honest look at myself to determine whether I favor men in my court. I thought about it and will continue to. Interestingly, more often I get men telling me I am a feminist who always sides with women. In general, I think people tend to understand their own so much better than they understand others it is natural to side with them more because what they say to instinctually  makes sense.

I try very hard to think on both sides of the fence when I am on the bench. With both sides seeing bias on the other I think I’m probably close. lol! That said, I never stop reviewing and adjusting.

2. Someone asked if the things that I see on the bench every help me in my marriage. And the answer is absolutely! But then again I think everything I do and see everywhere helps me. You just keep learning all along. I wrote about my marriage a fair amount in Making Marriage Work, if you’re really interested. Too much to repeat here, but definitely I’ve learned along the way.

3. Last, but not least, someone else asked if my job ever interferes with my marriage and is it hard to balance both. The answer to that one is no. There isn’t much to balance. I tape only a couple months out of the year and then only a few days each month. So we’re chillin’ together most of the time.  I tell you what was hard though. when I was an attorney working 70 hours a week and we had the 4 older boys and I had a new baby. Talk about balancing. I was half a lunatic most days….

So there ya go …

Hope you guys have a great day!

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Ten Things I Learned in 26 Years of Marriage

Posted by on Jan 16, 2016 in Uncategorized | No Comments

Number 1: I had more June Cleaver, Claire Huxtable genes than I thought. Nothing like love to make you feel oddly domestic in ways you swore you’d never do. Number 2: I don’t know where they got this from but I did not find that 2 can live a cheaply as one. Number 3: People […]

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Posted by on Jun 17, 2015 in Uncategorized | No Comments

Hello everyone, I am in the process of trying to make my e-life more manageable … I have about 150 unanswered questions here and have no way to weed through them in a timely manner. So this is the new plan…. I am going to answer questions from my Facebook Page: My Mother’s Rules: My Mother’s […]

A could of answers

Posted by on May 6, 2015 in Uncategorized | No Comments

Hello everyone, I’ve gotten a couple of questions from some of you about me that I’d thought I’d answer en masse. 1. Someone asked me to take an honest look at myself to determine whether I favor men in my court. I thought about it and will continue to. Interestingly, more often I get men […]

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I believe my AskJudgeLynn Page is working. Just go to the page scroll down to the bottom and start a new topic if you have a question.

Technical Issues

Posted by on May 2, 2015 in Uncategorized | No Comments

Hello all, I have had some reports of technical issues on my AskJudgeLynn Message Board. I have someone working on it … Not me, of course, since I actually want to fix it!