This was on my mind ...
Number 1:
I had more June Cleaver, Claire Huxtable genes than I thought.
Nothing like love to make you feel oddly domestic in ways you swore you’d never do.
Number 2:
I don’t know where they got this from
but I did not find that 2 can live a cheaply as one.
Number 3:
People have financial personalities. Savers gotta save.
Spenders … have to get with the program.
Number 4:
A marriage will glide … for a while but sooner rather than
later you have to put your thrusters
back on before you lose too much altitude.
Number 5:
A sense of humor is invaluable.
Number 6:
You never get to stop talking about it.
Number 7:
Marriage counselors should be a go-to-whenever event
not a near-the-end-of–the-marriage event.
Number 8:
At some point you and your partner will find
yourselves hanging on for dear life trying to survive the kids.
Number 9:
Number 8 can last a long time … just sayin’.
You know you’ve got the right guy when the
both of you forget your wedding anniversary
and both of you think it’s funny.
Ten Things I Learned in 26 Years of Marriage
Number 1:
I had more June Cleaver, Claire Huxtable genes than I thought.
Nothing like love to make you feel oddly domestic in ways you swore you’d never do.
Number 2:
I don’t know where they got this from
but I did not find that 2 can live a cheaply as one.
Number 3:
People have financial personalities.
Savers gotta save. Spenders … have to get with the program.
Number 4:
A marriage will glide … for a while but sooner rather
than later you have to put your thrusters
back on before you lose too much altitude.
Number 5:
A sense of humor is invaluable.
Number 6:
You never get to stop talking about it. Ever.
Number 7:
Marriage counselors should be a go-to-whenever event
not a near-the-end-of–the-marriage event.
Number 8:
At some point you and your partner will find yourselves
hanging on for dear life trying to survive the kids.
Number 9:
Number 8 can last a long time … just sayin’.
Number 10:
You know you’ve got the right guy when the both
of you forget your wedding anniversary and both of you think it’s funny.
Moving …
Hello everyone,
I am in the process of trying to make my e-life more manageable … I have about 150 unanswered questions here and have no way to weed through them in a timely manner.
So this is the new plan….
I am going to answer questions from my Facebook Page: My Mother’s Rules:
I have turned on the messages feature there and I have someone helping me to get things organized, so I can respond to more and do general replies to often asked questions.
LOL! Keep your fingers crossed as I continue my on-line e-struggles
JLT
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About
Judge Lynn Toler became the host of the longest running television court program, "Divorce Court" in 2006. Prior to that, Judge Lynn Toler graduated from Harvard University and The University of Pennsylvania Law School. She began practicing law in Cleveland in 1984. In 1993, at the age of 33, she was elected judge of The Cleveland Heights Municipal Court. Judge Toler volunteered actively in her community creating innovative programs for young offenders such as Woman Talk, a program designed to intensively mentor young, at-risk girls.
Toler also headed the Cleveland Heights Coordinated Community Response to Violence against Women, a countywide initiative for the coordination of community resources to assist women who are victims of violence. She was also active as an advisory board member for Templum House, a battered women's shelter. As a result of her work in the area of domestic violence in 2002, she was awarded The Humanitarian of the Year Award from The Cleveland Domestic Violence Center.
Judge Toler's dedication to ending domestic violence continues. Currently, she is on the Board of GoPurple.org, a non-profit organization that addresses the issue of domestic violence through education. GoPurple.Org sends educators into classrooms teaching students about healthy relationships, signs of potentially abusive relationships, and ways to help both themselves and others who are in abusive situations.
Judge Toler has served as an adjunct professor at Ursuline College, where she created and taught courses on Civil Rights Law, and Women and the Law. She was also a frequent instructor for the Ohio Judicial College, where she helped create and taught continuing judicial education course for other judges.
Judge Toler is the author of three books including her most recent "Making Marriage Work: New Rules for an Old Institution." Her first, "My Mother's Rules: A Practical Guide to Becoming an Emotional Genius" published in 2006, is a humorous memoir in which Judge Lynn recounts a childhood lived in the shadow of mental illness and provides a practical guide to the emotional lessons learned from that experience. And her time on the bench. Her second book, "Put It In Writing," coauthored with Deborah Hutchison, was published in September, 2009. It gives readers concrete, conflict-free solutions to the difficult situations that arise between family and friends.
Judge Toler has written for a variety of magazines including Divorce Magazine published through out the United States and Canada. In 2009, Judge Toler was given The Voice of Freedom Award by the Philadelphia Chapter of the Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. joining former honorees Colin Powell and Vice President Al Gore, in ringing the Liberty Bell on Martin Luther King Day.
Currently, Judge Toler appears regularly as a guest expert on WeTV's Marriage Bootcamp. Born on October 25, 1959, she has been married to Eric Mumford since April, 1989. She has two sons and four stepsons.
Ten Things I Learned in 26 Years of Marriage
Number 1: I had more June Cleaver, Claire Huxtable genes than I thought. Nothing like love to make you feel oddly domestic in ways you swore you’d never do. Number 2: I don’t know where they got this from but I did not find that 2 can live a cheaply as one. Number 3: People […]
Moving …
Hello everyone, I am in the process of trying to make my e-life more manageable … I have about 150 unanswered questions here and have no way to weed through them in a timely manner. So this is the new plan…. I am going to answer questions from my Facebook Page: My Mother’s Rules: My Mother’s […]