It's Early

Woke up at 4 am, you know what that means. Something’s on my mind. This time, however, unlike most days, I know EXACTLY what it is. Stepping out into new adventures is hard. Battling in a new arena. Don’t know all of the rules yet. Growth is disconcerting.

I see we have new visitors reaching out on the blog. Always nice to see that. Welcome! You will love my Crew. They are good people.

Something wonderful happened to me the other day. I received interest on a Love Deposit I never thought I would get. A Love Deposit is my name for the good things you do for other people for no other reason than you are in a position to do them.

For years I ran this groups for at risk girls. I became close to one and we stayed in contact for quite a while. We lost touch but she found me the other day. She is stepping up and moving forward. I can’t say how much (if anything) my involvement with her helped, but I grew to care for her and it is nice she is doing so well and took the time to reach back to me.

By the way, Jan, my darlin’, you can ramble all you want!!!! You know our prayers are with you for your son. (see her comment on my MySpace page).

When I get something together I am going to write a blog called The Third Option. I talk all of the time about women who are in relationships they find difficult and I get the question should I stay or leave. Of course, I don’t give specific advice but I like to share what questions I would ask myself and different avenues I have tried.

I have mentioned it a couple of times. Staying or leaving are not always the only options. Staying and changing the nature of the relationship is the third option. (mind you, if you are being abused this does not apply to you – you need to reach out for help so you can leave and do so SAFELY).

But if you are – as one of our new members said – emotionally starved or the like there may be a third option. Changing the dynamic of the relationship. Hard stuff. Counseling often can help with that. (even if you can’t get him to go you can go and learn how to change what you are doing in a manner that will change the nature of the relationship.)

But this is a deep topic and I want to think about it more. I’ve done it, though. It was hard and it requires continued effort. But hopefully I have learned something from the process that I can generalize and share.

Had some family business to take care of that took me out of town. Went through San Francisco. Met one of the Oakland Raiders there (not a current player but one who was on the team when they won the Super Bowl.)

He was so funny. He pulled one of my favorite moves. He knew he knew me from somewhere but couldn’t quite place me. He didn’t want to seem like he didn’t remember someone he knew personally so he greeted me like and old friend and said “so good to see you again” All of the while I am sure his mind was workin’ “Where do I know this woman from?”

I get that a lot and I do that a lot. It’s hard to know who you’ve met and seen and those you haven’t but who have seen you and feel like they know you.

I said “Divorce Court.” He laughed. Then he let me put on his Super Bowl ring and we took a picture. Here it is. I know it will show up sideways but for the life of me I can’t figure out how to rotate it.