Good Girls

Three things happened the other day that may me think about what it is to be a ‘good girl”.

I got a comment on a computer message – got another comment on a social networking page and my daughter-in-law and I had a long (wine enhanced) conversation.

1. The message I got was from someone who said she felt guilty when she couldn’t do something for someone. She was trying to be a good person. My response was there is a difference between being a good person and making everybody happy.

2. Someone of Facebook said that I was a strong woman who knows what she will and will not take. While that statement is becoming truer by the year it is not necessarily how things are. I have made a lot of good girl mistakes in several arenas of my life. Lots.

3. My daughter-in-law and I were talking about relationships and what we have done to make our relationships work that when we were young unmarried and cocky we never thought we would do.

I’m not sure where I am going with this. But I suppose it’s just that I am having a renewed appreciation for the GUILTLESS ‘kind no’ as opposed to the ‘resentful yes’.

The former is becoming easier with age. And the weird thing is those who are now getting the GUILTLESS kind no are now more happy than when they were getting the resentful yes.

Like Momma always said “you gotta do what people need not what they want. And while everybody knows what they want very few know what they really need.”

Peace.