In Season

I am In Season.

Time to be that other half of myself. Doing 5 radio interviews and 1 newspaper interview this week. I must transform. That’s cool though. Keeps me on my toes.

17 started driving to school on his own this week. You know a girl is stressed about that. I make him text me when he gets there.

14 has had no further conflict. Even had the nerve to bring in 5 A’s.

I received an interesting question from a young lady on Facebook asking me how to make her 21 year old boy friend WITH WHOM SHE ALREADY HAS 2 CHILDREN grow up and start taking responsibility.

I wanted to respond but I didn’t want her to feel worse. What can I say? 21 is what 21 is. You can’t have children with a teenaged boy (which he must have been since he’s 21 now and they already have 2) and then be surprised when he acts his age. Clearly he needs to step up but – wow -someone more knowledgeable than I would have to explain how you get somebody else to grow up.

She is in the thick of it now. What she needs to do in concentrate on what she can do. Make him pay child support. System is in place for that. Get the support you need from family. Keep him involved and engaged but don’t keep screaming at him – he’ll run. (which he might do anyway) but cooler heads have to prevail somewhere and you have to take it up a notch if he isn’t. It’s not fair but you have two kids. You can’t change other people. You can only change yourself. If you make proper adjustments the odds increase – not much, but some – that the other person will change in response.

If what you are doing now isn’t working change what you are doing. If that doesn’t work adjust again. That is how my mother said she learned to deal with my father. Commitment- trial – error and change. You have to keep your eye on the point of the whole thing even when your emotional self says temper tantrum.

There is no magic bullet for this one. I don’t know if anything I’ve said here will help. Don’t have enough info. The ONLY thing I know for sure is that she should have NO MORE UNPROTECTED SEX.

I know this is of no help to her but I just have to say it in case anybody else that young is listening. This may not be a popular stance but I truly believe that we all got caught under the bus of the sexual revolution. We need to rethink the way we do business. Completely.

Too much sex too soon. Too much sex too soon. Too much sex too soon.

Oh my.