Company

Guess what?

I am having company coming in from out of town.  Or, more accurately, my boys are.  Old friends from years ago.  So now I am faced with four teenaged boys to feed.  Off to the store I go.  I have made peace with the fact that I might have to go everyday.

Excited to see them though.  Known them since there were little.

I fell into my IPad last night and couldn’t get out.  Downloaded a season of Friday Night Lights.  I got all caught up in these people’s lives and I spent 3 hours watching it.  What can I say?  My initial reaction was “How could I waste so much time?” my second was “Having fun isn’t wasting time, get over yourself.”

I do want to acknowledge the comment I received from Terry on Friday’s Blogger Choice.  In a nut shell she said she was living in a difficult situation as a child and is now having a difficult time in her relationship as an adult and asks how does she not repeat the error.

I am not sure what happened to her when she was young or the nature of the difficulties she is having now so I really can’t give any kind of opinion.  What I CAN say is what I always say:

Think your way through how you feel.

That means take a look at what is going on in your life that you don’t like and ask yourself what’s wrong here and what can I do differently.  Usually there is no one magic bullet that will fix things but you can work the edges if you think before you do. I know in my house when things start taking a left turn is because we don’t talk.  And when I say talk I mean a conversation that starts with something like:

“You know, I’m upset about something and I just want to clear the air . . . ”  Non threatening.  Non-cathartic just simple and at the right time (when the other person is in a decent mood)

Now if things are really askew at your house that won’t work.  But what will always help is you changing your mindset about who you are, what you can control, how you are going to feel about it and what you can change.

Sometimes that is hard to see especially if your circumstances are extreme, but gaining any kind of control even if it is changing how you feel about one small thing or gaining one small change or finding one small pleasure even if unrelated to how you live at home can change your perspective on what’s up.

More than anything I got from you post was that you feel like you are getting whipped around by the winds of your circumstances and you can’t get your feet under you.  If nothing else at least know that I get how your feel and am glad that you took the first step of putting your pain into words.  Sometimes that, and the knowledge that you have been heard,  in and of itself, helps a little.  I hope so.

Here’s wishing you power and peace.